My (30M) and my partner (26F) have been together around five years. We are not married. I've made a much higher salary than her for our entire relationship. The last two years my salary has doubled to the $250K range. I have a good job in sales and a small business on the side. She makes $80K.
I do not live lavishly and could easily live on her salary with my current bills. In both my W2 job and my business I know my situation could change very quickly, so I have vigorously fought against any lifestyle creep in case my income does happen to reduce.
We bought and remodeled a house this year that we've split 50/50. We also split the utilities and other household expenses. I pay for half of her vehicle and auto insurance since I also use it at times.
This isn't a particularly sore subject in our relationship, but she has made comments about the difference in our incomes. Particularly in my desire to pay off the 50% of our mortgage I'm obligated to. I have proposed allowing me to pay off our home in full or a larger percentage of the mortgage than 50%, but would then want the percentage that l've paid for reflected as my ownership if we were to ever split up.
I struggle with feeling like I should be taking on more of our bills since she does make a good income. How do others handle similar situations?
**Note since many people have mentioned-
We live a very nice life. She is able to save towards retirement and personal savings and has plenty of discretionary spending for things she likes. We purchased our home for $230k, so neither of us need to penny pinch. Our total liabilities are less than $2.5k month, so we’re not talking crazy money here…
Submitted September 14, 2023 at 10:40PM by Certain_Buy_5431 https://ift.tt/pT8PXyc
