Hey all, this is gonna be a small rant but I promise to stay on topic. Now before i start, I will say I have accumulated about $10,000 in debt trying to "do the right thing", not to mention the vast amount of time i lost, and days i had to take off.
Back in 2015, I had a family member visiting on a work visa, and my mom and uncle begged me to fly into California and help her get situated: Now it turned out, my cousin actually had a job in Nevada but took the plane to CA so she can save few hundred bucks, the cost I would bear by renting out a car and driving her to LV.
But, o wait, her plain was late 5hrs, arrived after midnight so I lost my car reservation and I had to get a new one AND pay for the hotel for the night. Cost:$260. But o wait the next day I get to LV and I have no place to stay, my cousin is sharing one room, with 4 other people, so i have to get my own hotel room for 3 days. Total cost ~$1500-2000.
Now fast forward to few weeks ago; another cousin is on a work visa in CA; and you know somebody wants something from you when they don't talk to you 5-7 years and then on day they call you 5-10times; and then call your dad and mom to bitch about how you don't wanna hang out with them.
Me: "He is only calls he wants something" MOM: "Nothing wrong with that, thats how everyone is, and he is family."
So I hear him out, and it turns out he did not want something, he wanted everything.
- For me to drop everything and drive him for hours during a few days to several job interviews.
- If he cannot find a job, I was to call all my contacts and to ask them to hire him as a favor to me. (i have not seen this guy in 5+ years, how can i vouch for him?)
- He wanted me to buy him massive amount of weed and alcohol while he is getting this job.
- He wanted access to my Amazon Prime account, he needed free shipping and we would "pay me back" on all purchases he made (yeah right. I m also pretty sure AP offers 1-free month)
- He wanted to overstay his visa and live with me, i think indefinitely (I already know he would never, ever pay any bills and would take most of my food)
Lesson here is that NO, you DON'T have the obligation to help someone just because they are family. For all the help I have provided over the years, I have gotten nothing for it except being a "guy that helps his family",
I put a target on my back and everyone wanted to take a shot. Now all these people that I have helped have more money than me, better place to live and better job prospects, and once they continued on with their lives they never tried to contact me even for a smiple chat.
Submitted August 16, 2017 at 04:26PM by NosyWally http://ift.tt/2vJgYIl
