Seemingly, there is nothing wrong with staying at home, with my(23f) parents. But I often feel like I can't breathe. I have my own room, but my parents have no sense of boundaries. They are good people and aren't trying to intentionally unconvenience me. But they don't seem to realise that I am an adult with a life of my own. I am tired of having to tell them where and when and with who I'm going out, when I'll be back. I am tired of not being able to have people over (friends or SOs). I am tired of having to make conversation at the end of a long day when all I want it alone time.
When I was 20, I moved out for a year for my last year of college. But since work was close to home, it only made sense to move back home. In the conservative society I live in, it is common for people to live at home until they are married. Nobody would understand why I want to move out when my parents are in the same city.
I have enough money saved to move out, for initial purchases and deposits. My needs are very limited. Currently, as I'm living at home, I save 70-80% of my paycheck every month. If I were to move out, I would have to dip into my savings to fund the initial set-up. I probably wouldn't save anything for a month or 2 until I settled in. Even post that, it would be a task to save 20% of my earnings. On one hand, it is a massive financial decision. On the other, it would allow me to truly be myself and not feel suffocated. My parents would eventually understand but they are going to be devastated. So there is the guilt as well. Any insights would be appreciated.
Submitted March 29, 2021 at 05:02AM by puttaputtani https://ift.tt/3dhBJkC
