Maybe this is more of a rant… solicitation for random therapy than this forum is used to but I need advice.
I’m a 25 year old female. I have a solid Ivy degree, six figures of savings (I’m super frugal), and a great boyfriend who understands and supports my decisions.
Basically, I moved home during COVID because I was working in another state but we were all given the option. I wanted to save money and stay closer to family. The first few months were bliss (parents were so happy to have me home!) but especially recently, it has all gone downhill. My mom has severe control issues (despite her vast amounts of love as shown through cooking all the time, housing me, buying me gifts regularly etc). Unfortunately, she also expects me to live in the way she thinks is best (encourages me towards a different job, a different boyfriend although she has zero reason to dislike my current one etc)
Things have really declined. She’s severely controlling at this point. My mom and I barely speak now even though we live in the same house, but I also feel responsible for sticking around. It may sound weird, but me being home makes the family feel “whole yet broken” rather than just “broken.”
I really need advice. :( covid is coming to an end but I still have the option to continue living at home. My boyfriend totally supports me living here (even though he’s not allowed to visit as per mother— he’s a great guy) to save money and stay closer to family. He still visits me in town and then stays with friends nearby or gets a hotel.
Advice? My mother’s control issues are insane/ I’m not even going to get into them but potentially related to mental health problems:( I feel guilty whether I move or stay.
I don’t NEED the money, but somehow it feels like I’d be wasting it by moving out.
July 18, 2021 at 12:16PM
