We are a couple both with jobs, somewhere the later half of 30s. Unfortunately both of us are in a lower income bracket compared to most of our friends. This makes things difficult and awkward when it comes to gifts. I am all up for expressing love for your friends with gifts, but need to stick to our income. She feels overwhelmed when her well-to-do friends gift her or our son with expensive gifts. Lets say her friend from US sends a gift worth 2000 coin. She HAS TO give a gift of same or more value when that friends kid's birthday comes. But truth is we can not afford 2000. We can afford 1000 with difficulty. Thats the truth. I am not able to communicate this to her in an effective way. Most months we are just counting down to payday. Combined income is around 1,00,000 every month. (Rent+Babycare+Phones+Utilities come to 43,000. Not included are Grocery, fuel, insurances etc) Our disposable income is very low.
"So we need to send some gifts to Sharon" Alarm bells ringing in my mind ! "Honey can we buy something within 1000" "But..But.. she send xx and xx.. we did not even send something for the x occasion" "I dont think we can afford that much.. They are XXX " Here the talks reach a stage where she feels upset and i am at a loss. She is bit emotional about these things. When things get heated she blames our crap jobs for this situation. She believes more income is the only solution and expenses cant be limited any more. I know this is not true, i bargained and got our phone+internet expenses to 50% down. We both have income. I dont want to really control her expenses. But both our income combined also, we have very little leeway. If there is an emergency, we will surely have a problem. How can i convince her without making her upset.
Submitted June 07, 2018 at 05:44AM by LegitimatePumpkin https://ift.tt/2JfXdCi
