My divorce is finally final and man did I come out the loser. Bitch got pretty much everything but my 4 year old son. We were doing pretty well financially, but I had to pretty much give her everything because I wouldn’t accept anything less than full custody. Won’t go into details but she’s turned out to be an awful mother and the man she’s currently with gives me the creeps— and I swear it’s not because he’s dating my ex wife. I’m using a throwaway because of him— ex and him don’t know where Mini Me and I are staying.
Anyway, as a result of the divorce I lost my job. I was employed by my father in law... wife and I have been separated for a while, he only learned about it last month. Fortunately, I still got a decent sized severance package which helped me pay my lawyer, cover expenses to move out of state, and expenses for a few weeks/months. Overall I’m optimistic. Just glad the past two years is behind me.
Anyway Reddit, I have $4,731.24 in my bank account and maybe $8 in change in my car. I have a small amount of clothes for me and my son, and some toys for him. Staying at a friends apartment as he’s out on business but we need to leave by July 15.
My questions are: 1- Any suggestions where to move to? We are currently in SoCal. My parents live out of the country and I am an only child. Want somewhere warm, lower cost of living but probably not Arizona seems too hot (never really been there tbh)
2- I didn’t graduate college. Got a great paying job my junior year of college with my Father In Laws manufacturing company. When I was fired I was a floor supervisor making almost 80k + 20-30% bonus if we hit our targets. I have great experience but I’m worried the lack of degree is going to kill any chances at a decent job. Should I make plans to go back to school? I’m 37 years old.
3- Where do I even start to rebuild? I had a nearly paid off home in Southern California. A great wife and job— to less than $5000 cash and a 9-10k car I’d be living in if it weren’t for my friend on business. Maybe I should sell the car. I have some credit cards... but I really don’t like using credit cards. Paid off all not mortgage debt about 3 years ago.
Overall I’m happy. Most men don’t make it out of the divorce with even shared custody. Just happy I get to be with my kid.
Any help appreciated
Submitted June 21, 2018 at 01:46AM by polyamateur63 https://ift.tt/2ythMWR
