I’m not sure if this is the best forum but I figure it’s worth a shot. I recently learned my elderly mother has been sending money to her estranged brother in the Philippines to clear his numerous gambling (among others) debts, and on a recent trip there, just bailed his wife out of jail and paid some of HER debts. I can’t be sure but I’m thinking she’s paid off at least $2000-3000 USD, which is A LOT in Philippine pesos. That number can easily be more since I have no idea how long this has been going on. My cousins and other aunts all believe my uncle will only continue to hit my mother up for money since all the rest of the family has cut contact with him.
My mother is VERY stubborn and seems to think she is taking care of her “baby brother”, not enabling him. Additonally, she’s starting to show signs of dementia/Alzheimer’s, but has yet to be diagnosed and refuses to see a doctor. I don’t think simply talking to her will help because she’s always done what she believes to be best, regardless of outcome.
My question now is: what can I do to protect my mother from her predatory brother, as well as herself?
I already have financial Power of Attorney from my dad due to illness, but my mother has yet to grant the same to me.
I plan to contact their joint bank accounts to see if they can prevent any foreign money orders. I’m not sure if I can put a stop payment order to specific people, especially if they’re in a different country. I also plan to block calls from my uncle’s number but that can easily be gotten around.
What else can I do to protect my parents? Any other advice people have would be sincerely appreciated!
Submitted November 27, 2017 at 03:05AM by semiinsanesb http://ift.tt/2zI5Z7c
