Lately I've been feeling more and more that I don't have as much in common with my non-frugal friends and I don't know what to do. Anyone else ever feel this way?
I've always been a pretty frugal person, but recently my husband and I have taken even greater steps to become more frugal in pursuit of early retirement and I dunno, I just feel different around my friends now. For instance, we just went to a BBQ and the entire time all of the women there talked about either their latest manicure, or their highlights or their new clothes from Nordstrom and I just felt so left out. One woman was talking about getting a Brazilian before she gives birth next month. Another woman was telling me about her tummy tuck. And another was telling me how she's thinking about spending $20,000 on an interior decorator for her new house. I just felt like I didn't have anything to add to the conversation at all and felt like a total loser. Admittedly, I don't care about my appearance much, so spending money on things like manicures, Sephora makeup and fancy clothes just isn't my thing. I buy most of my clothes from Target or thrift stores and get a lot of used furniture from Craigslist or hand me downs from family and friends. I'm trying really hard not to be judgemental. I know that everyone is entitled to spend their money however they like and life their own lives, but I feel like I just can't relate to them at all anymore. Sometimes I wonder, "Am I the weird one? Should I care about this stuff more?"
Have you ever lost friendships or outgrown friends due to financial differences? Are frugal and non-frugal people able to be friends? Should I just try and find a different tribe?
July 30, 2017 at 07:47PM
