I have a very strong suspicion that I’m about to be let go from my new job. It’s been 8 weeks. It’s a fully remote role, and the only person I have worked with, met and talked to in the entire 200+ person company is my manager. I’m so isolated. I’m a software engineer and it’s only me and my boss who are responsible for this app. I had my one on one last week and it was extremely negative. He made some remarks that insinuated that he thinks I am lying about my work experience and a fraud. I’ve been doing this for 10 years and I’ve been successful in my previous roles.
So I am miserable and it’s clear that there is no way I am going to salvage this. I also don’t wish to stay. I started my search again on Wednesday, and I already have 6 intro interview calls next week. And a second round is being scheduled for one. So that’s great! I feel confident I can find a new role.
But I’m at this awkward point in my current job where I can’t take off work or they will likely use that as more leverage to let me go. I have flexible hours, so I can take odd hour lunch breaks.
Many of these roles require “virtual onsite” interviews. What this means is a video call that spans more than 3 hours. It’s usually the final interview round, and an opportunity to meet the team.
Even this upcoming second round interview, it’s 90 minutes long. How do I step away for 90 minutes and not raise suspicion? I feel like I’m currently playing a game of chicken. I’m trying to stay as long as I can for the paycheck while I find another role. Does this seem like the right move? Or is this limiting me from new opportunities? I’m concerned that I need to pass on these companies with long interviews for the limited number of paychecks I have left.
I’m also trying to stay employed because this is making my husband super anxious. I won’t be eligible for unemployment because i haven’t worked there long enough (USA). He’s very worried about being the sole breadwinner. I don’t want to put that stress on him, but if it were to happen, we would be ok. I have more than a year’s worth of emergency savings. And I’m already actively cutting down my spending. We could live on his salary alone, without any of my savings.
Also, I’ve never been fired before and I don’t know how to behave/what is appropriate! Is it ok to start disappearing for longer lunch breaks if I already know I’m going to be fired? Should I take sick days? Is it ok to be putting myself first or is it more appropriate to quit? If I quit, what do I do with my resume and will it look bad to employers?
Wow this is such an anxious rant. Basically, I know I’m getting fired. I don’t want to stay, but I want the pay for as long as possible. How do I continue to work at this company while also taking interviews that are more than an hour long? How do I take interviews that are more than an hour long as a new hire on thin ice? Should I just quit?
Submitted March 04, 2023 at 03:14AM by Famous_Tap_7994 https://ift.tt/DZN2TuB
