I'm autistic, so I don't always get social rules. I get anxious about discussing money, because I know it can be rude, but I don't fully understand why.
Some stuff has happened and my money is super tight. My cousins have been paying my share of family events so that I can be included. Because I'm poor and couldn't afford to attend on my own. I am very greatful. But I don't understand how to talk about it with them. Because there is no discussion before hand, they just pay for things, then tell me it's covered. Sometimes I don't even know they've done it. I am very grateful, because I could not afford all the events on my own.
But I definitely want to go to the events, and couldn't without their help.
But how do I make sure my cousins are 100% able and happy to cover my share? I'm the baby of the family, so they've always looked after me. But I am an adult. So I don't want them to feel obligated, or to get themselves into any kind of debt.
I want to be sure they are happy to pay for me, and I want to make sure I thank them properly. Is it enough to just say thank you, or should I say or do more? How can I discus it without being rude?
November 13, 2019 at 08:53PM
