In summary my parents have control of my finances and student loan. I’m going into my third and final year of college as an independent student. I have tried to appeal for a bigger loan, but I’m not eligible to apply for a loan as an independent student because my parents are still “in the picture” - they refused to sign the form to confirm that I’m financially independent. When I ran out of money I was forced to live in a convent by them, and basically am under financial duress. It severely affected my studies too.
The student loan is entitled to now is under half of what I should be getting as an independent student. It’s the minimum a person can get. I’ve explained to the university, but the people who could do anything about it don’t seem to understand no matter which way I’ve put it.
Even though I was lucky to get a grant, added to my loan its still close to impossible to work with. It was a smaller grant because they calculated it based on means testing, which my parents refused to do. I had a breakdown this year and only sat half of my exams - which has significantly impacted on my future (ability to get onto graduate schemes) and a masters is pretty much of the question with only half my grades.
I also tried to appeal to the student loan company themselves - they were impatient and uninterested and actually ignored my emails for months. I’m currently appealing for a second time but I assume based on their rationale beforehand the decision will be the same.
I worked on and off part time, because that was as much as I could handle - I’m at law school. I didn’t get any internships (underperformed academics) and I also was “”overqualified”” for other roles based on past internships, and the fact that I’m a law student instead of Journalism/Marketing/History for example, which really felt like a loophole. The little I did earn went straight to rent and “penalties” at the convent. Moreover the jobs I worked can’t help me professionally with my career, so my CV has been “empty” for the past 2 years. I don’t have strong extracurricular either.
I genuinely am at a loss for what to do. It is very serious, and I’ve tried to reach out about it so many times to several different sources. I spent almost a year living in a convent, where I was forced my nuns to live with a 25 year old mentally handicapped girl who should probably have been in some sort of assisted living. This added to the PTSD I already had from years of extreme abuse.
Also the bigger picture is that my parents (who are now ageing narcissist and actually are severely mentally ill) are purposefully trying to handicap me, through financial control and controlling my future prospects. I have tried to leave home several times but I just don’t practically have the means in any way possible.
Submitted August 20, 2019 at 03:32AM by CSQUITO https://ift.tt/2NkPzrk
