Extra Long, TL;DR at the bottom.
A little backstory: I am 25, Male, and work in the IT industry with a Computer Science Degree from a respected university. No certifications.
I was approached by my grandfather in October that his company (He is a respected technician/adviser) was in dire need of a new support person, as one of their main guys had been pulled from the reserves and sent overseas and another individual had been fired. It is a small company (12 people now, including me) but they deal with about 7 figures in revenue and are a service provider for huge companies as we work with a niche system and software that few provide service for. I had a couple interviews (Though it was a given. Yay, nepotism.) and I was hired and given a $50k salary. I had previously worked for $35k at another company that I absolutely loved and was a 10 minute drive from home.
The office is 45 minutes away and tiny. Only 3 people work there (HR, Security Admin, and the owner of the company) but, I was promised that after a few months of training, I would get to work from home like everyone else. I started in November, and quickly came to realize the owner and I's mentality on a training process and what was expected varied greatly. He is extremely long winded about explanations, I am expected to just read slides and to try and learn by reading support emails that come in. Remember, this is an incredibly niche system that I had never even heard of before coming to work for the company (IBM iSeries Servers, for those who are interested.) He is super critical about everything, gives critique in the form of long emails tearing into things in all caps and bold even if you are sitting right next to him, and contradicts himself constantly (He argues he doesn't, but I have tons of proof he does.)
I am unfortunate in that I have anxiety and stress-related illnesses (Migraines, IBS, etc.) and his entire method of throwing me to the wolves has left me frustrated, riddled with health issues, and anxiety flareups. I just spent the past month and a half building a new support site for the company while not learning really anything new. And now he wants me to do another small project that only has a small bit to do with what I signed up for. I had expected to start working from home by now, but I know almost as much as when I first joined. I have not even been given access to any of the training servers. He constantly promises that he sees a lot of potential in me and that if I stick with them I will be "Greatly Compensated," but I lose sleep over all of this and I don't know how much longer I can last. I feel crippled that I know so little while being asked to do so much. I have asked to be trained side by side and have been shot down and just been told to come over and ask for clarification on things or to take my own initiative in asking for information (Or to just read more 100-page documentation books.)
I have gone to my Grandfather about this, and I tried standing up to my boss about being trained (Even going so far as to flat out tell him I am going to my Grandfather's to train.) This only pissed him off more. He constantly shit-talks the main support guy in how he responds to things, but he stresses it is only so I can "Learn what not to do." I don't know if I can keep working for him if that is what I can expect going down the road. When I do work from home, since I don't do support yet, he is micromanaging me and condescending about everything I do. I dropped the ball on something (Completely my fault) and his response has me so anxious that I have not slept all night.
I have enough in my bank account for 5 months expenses (Rent, utilities, groceries, etc) with wiggle room. Should I bite the bullet and just try to work through this until I work from home and have less interaction with him? Or, should I just quit, try to recuperate my health, and find a new job? This job promises work from home, setting my own schedule once I do, and a very lax vacation policy, but I am being driven insane.
TL;DR: Contradicting, Condescending, Critical boss refuses to train me and the stress is driving me to be in literal pain (My migraines jumped from 5 to 13 a month). Will get to work from home eventually, but no idea when. 5 months expenses in the bank, should I quit or stick it out?
Submitted March 06, 2019 at 07:29AM by Lovenkraft19 https://ift.tt/2tRtuFw
