Backstory I am 33 been with my now wife since 17 with two children 12 and 13. I hope to retire on a piece of land and live a self reliant / offgrid life in the woods
I have a secure career making 68k per year net salary and have a %60 military pention available to me in 15 years. spouses income of 42 per year net (cad) no pention
I have zero savings , mortgage , assets, living payday to payday. I know we can do better with a monthly cost of living of $1600 +- 250. She is in charge of all finances and bills and i suspect our end goals are not the same since we appearantly cant afford our current lifestyle with more than enough money to do so.
I guess my question is, 1.whether i should step in and control the family finances 2.try and setup an account behind her back for savings( do not like the idea of hiding somthing ) 3.cut my losses, take my children and make the life i feel they deserve
Submitted January 16, 2019 at 09:38PM by notyours101 http://bit.ly/2ARCsGL
