Hi all, I’m feeling a bit lost, and need advice. My wife and I are getting ready to separate due to a lot of reasons. The 2 major ones being that we have a ton of money issues. She’s a spender, I’m a saver, and she’s destructive with money. I make 80k and she makes 50k, yet we have no savings and actually overdraft almost every week. We live paycheck to paycheck. Out monthly bills aren’t even that much. We could save around 2-3k monthly easily... but she just can’t stop her spending. Also, she wants to have a kid, and I’m learning that I really don’t want to anymore... I’ve changed... I’m more leaning towards the FIRE lifestyle and minimalism... 2 areas that she doesn’t want.. she would rather have luxury cars, a large home, and kids. Nothing wrong with that I guess.. but I don’t want that.
As it stands, I have some money in savings, and after we split, I’ll be able to put away at least 3k a month by myself..
We will sell the house, and maybe have about 60k in equity that we will split..
Despite all this, I’m really sad... and I feel like I won’t have the strength to follow through with this divorce even though I know it’s best for both of us.. I have a feeling she will suck me back in, and I’ll give it to her... I don’t want to wake up in 5 years broke, and with kids, struggling paycheck to paycheck... cause that’s what’s gonna happen if I stay...
Before you ask, yes we’ve discussed finances, and views, and have tried different things... it never seems to work... I am just on a different page than her. She has no interest In FIRE. She has no interest in learning. She would rather have the luxuries in life.
God I’m depressed....
Submitted November 15, 2018 at 05:20AM by opponj https://ift.tt/2PsqFYR
