My husband and I have 100% separate finances and are planning on having a child or two if I can get pregnant with two at my age. Due to our life situations, we've been talking and we think it might make the most sense for him to work part time since freelancing is a somewhat lucrative situation in his field, while sending any kid my parents' house part time and maybe a couple of mornings of preschool for the first three years of the kid's life. Working part time is not an option for me.
Since we have separate finances, I've been thinking that it would be a good idea for me to pay him basically a salary to stay at home, but not to make up the difference between his full time work and part time work (20-25 hrs a week). My argument is that he's getting out of a stressful job that he hates, not have a commute anymore, and will get to take the kids full time for 1 day a week. He'll also be doing more housework (although that includes cooking which he loves.)
He's arguing that if he does this, he should get a straight up salary making up half the wages because he's looking at it from an economical standpoint, but also fully admits he would love to stay home and how great that would be to not commute, etc. He is calculating in the cost of lost wages from future jobs, but if he's freelancing it seems like that might not factor in. I think paying him more is going to not be worth it for me, but it will still be less than daycare if we opt for full time daycare. Part time day care is hard to get around here if you're trying for 3-4 days a week so people usually get full time. What's the best tactic to try to work this out?
Submitted September 21, 2017 at 07:05AM by PotentialParent http://ift.tt/2xTgfs2
