Mostly what the title says. I come from a middle-class background where my parents were very frugal. We had everything we needed, but I got used to looking for ways to save. He comes from a poorer background and never had anyone show him what it means to make the decision not to spend (but he thinks he's more frugal than I am because he had to be out of necessity).
We clash on how much to spend frequently. The current issue is that we planned a trip to NYC and he wants to 1) take Amtrak, which is $99 one way, compared to $60 both ways and 2) stay overnight in a "nice hotel." This is his first time going to NYC and he doesn't want to do a day trip even though it's totally viable. I've done one-day trips before, and I don't think that we'd get any extra really meaningful experience out of being in a hotel overnight with a view (especially since he wants to leave at ~3pm :/).
We don't spend on vacations and we only do occasional weekend trips so we could feasibly pay for this... but I don't know how to convince him that the expenditure is unnecessary. This dynamic happens with extraordinary frequency...
I don't want to be the nagging girlfriend or get into a fight about this. Help?
July 05, 2017 at 08:29AM
