My friend and I have known each other for about 13 years now, not close but more than acquaintances, and there are times when we have been close as well. Just that we are in two different stages of life so not bffs. In the past she has asked for $40 or $50 once in a while, and always paid it back.
My friend is a nurse and a single Mom, and lost her job a couple of months ago. She asked me for a $100 as her salary was delayed (she is a home nurse) and I gave it. When I learned the next week that she lost her job I gave her another $200 to take her through. Since then she has asked me a few times, the amount is small, in 50’s and 20’s. Totally she owes about less than $450.
She always tells me why she needs it (grocery, gas etc), and I know she’s not partying with it. She said she will pay me back when her tax returns come through.
But I’m starting to get uncomfortable, I know she will eventually pay me back but I don’t want our relationship to be about this. I feel that she could be asking her family to help her out, but I don’t know if she is on good terms with them. I also know the job market is hard right now and single moms go thru way more stress.
I feel terrible for even asking, but Should I continue helping her (my internal Limit is about $500-700), or should I stop? Is there a way to gently tell her if and when I want to stop? I would hate to hurt her feelings and for this to ruin our friendship.
TIA!!
Submitted February 04, 2024 at 03:28AM by Silverbride666 https://ift.tt/hqZk5im
