Hello, apologies in advance for how long this is. I want to make sure I have things explained as clearly as possible as I've been stuck in this situation for close to 3 years and I have no one to guide me. So it's a relief to come across this sub. I appreciate any advice I can get.
Some background:
I'm 21. I have two siblings, 19 and 13 and they're the one reason I keep fighting all this mess. When I'm out of this, I want them out with me.
We are Sudanese but were born in Saudi Arabia and lived there all our lives. In 2017 things got tough and we needed to find a country to move to. So in 2019 we moved to Turkey and have been here ever since.
Due to my father's terrible financial decisions (previous breadwinner), I finished HS late and did not get to attend college and only have my HS diploma. My brother just graduated HS.
Our father hasn't really been making income or properly funding us in over a year. He moved to Egypt end of 2021 and doesn't really send any money. Our mother lives with us but I fund everything. She also only has HS diploma. I cannot attend college atm because someone needs to work.
I am a private teacher and that's how we've been getting by. A kindergarten hired me under the table last fall but I quit after 3 days as it was too much and I realized I could make triple what they were offering me (and better treatment) from just teaching a few private students anyway. So that's what I've been doing.
Currently I have 4 students and I make close to 10K TRY (basically $580) from all of them combined, but due to inconsistent schedules (sometimes classes get paused/delayed for some weeks) I don't really get to have the 10K all at once. It almost entirely goes to rent, bills, and school for my siblings. Also I'm busy as is with my 4 students so I unfortunately don't have time to take on more students and increase my income.
So we've been living paycheck to paycheck, and our mother occasionally makes some money, but it's basically been me handling everything except groceries; a charity group was getting us the groceries up til two months ago. Dunno why they stopped but it wouldn't be hard to guess with the economy nowadays..
Now onto the problems we're facing:
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We had a lot of trouble with our landlord and he wants us out by the end of August at the latest.
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To move to another place we need to pay a huge deposit which is way more than I can cover at all.
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Our request for renewing our residence permit has been declined recently. Our only way to obtain a residence permit is to purchase a property with a value of no less than $75K, and each adult (over 18) should have a property in their name.
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Our passports will also expire end of August. The Sudanese government does not have officials to renew passports in its embassy in Turkey, so we'll have to wait for them to send a group of officials, but no one, not even the government, knows when will they finally get around to that. And if we want to skip the uncertain wait, we must travel to Sudan. Ticket prices are crazy expensive, too, and for the 4 of us..
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If we do leave Turkey after having stayed here for some time without a residence permit, we will have to pay a fine that we won't be able to afford, and so we will be banned from reentry for a few years. The natural consequence to that would be being sent to Sudan, where living conditions aren't the best and with the political unrest, it's not safe.
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In addition to the huge sum of money, we need either a residence permit/passport to move to a new place, of which we have neither..
It all feels really overwhelming and complicated.. every solution I can think of has a major con that I'd rather avoid, so everything feels like it's in limbo. I do recognize, however, that the biggest cause of all this trouble is the lack of money and stability. I was never taught about money, neither of my parents has ever really been responsible with money. I just make sure I pay everything off and save what's left, but what's left is never enough. And although I am an adult, I am very inexperienced and I wish I could have solid advice to follow but all the “adults” in my life aren't very reliable.
But maybe someone outside of this chaos can see something that I don't and open my eyes. I want to get myself and my siblings out of this mess. So any advice you can give about dealing with my finances (and even living location/situation, if you can) is welcome.
Thank you for reading this far. ChaosSurfer.
Submitted June 11, 2022 at 11:58PM by Chaos-Surfer https://ift.tt/PRmkJXc
