Sorry if this isn’t allowed, but I hope it is. Idk where else to put it. I adore my partner! He has horrendous money habits. We grew up in very different money environments and as a result he has no discipline when it comes to spending. I have tons of discipline, and since we have similar financial goals, recently I’ve been trying to help him get his spending and credit in check (at his request) and it has been kinda terrible. We seem to get into a little fight every time we talk about it. The obvious solution is to stop helping him, but we live together, so his finances have a tangible effect on mine. i worry that if I’m not watching his habits he’ll spiral, so now his money feels like my responsibility too. This is not healthy and I know it, especially because it’s hurting both our feelings. There has to be a happy medium for partnerships like this. Do you have a financially reckless partner? How do you deal with it? Do you intentionally back off? Do I just need to work on my compassionate teaching skills?
May 08, 2022 at 10:06PM
