I'm currently in a really shitty situation with very little resources.
Dad is financially abusive, controls my mom's money and my brother's money. He wants me to move home and work for him. That's the only way he'll support me. I don't want to work for him because he's.... abusive.... I wouldn't be an employee, so he'd just pay me with room and food. That's it. If I live at home and work for him, I'd have to get a job that he wants me to have. I have no car, I drive his car. I'm not allowed to drive to my job that's 70 miles away. He wants me to get a local job, aka something maybe 4 or 5 miles away. We live in the country suburbs... so I could work at Bojangles or Food Lion or something of that nature. He expects me to pay back $1000's of dollars of money but won't tell me how much I owe him but withholds help unless I pay him whenever he asks me. I have a lot of medical expenses, like I just had a surgery last year and I also have a tumor in my head.
Working from home is not reliable because my dad does not respect boundaries and believes that everything needs to be his way or he'll call the police. I've physically fought my dad... he's tried to push me down the stairs when I was still in high school. He will fight my mom and my brother, too.
My closest friends are either similarly abusive or they're not in the place to help anyone.
I received a 10 day pay or quit notice from my apartment on 03/03/2022... I owe over $3000 in rent. I'm only making $23/hour. I have two bank accounts: one is an online banking account and the other is a credit union account that I share with my mom (who's under my dad's financial abuse) and I also owe the credit union $14k so they take any money that stays in my checking account for more than a day or two.
I just started this job, and I don't get paid until Friday, but it's a physical check being mailed out to me. It's currently being sent to my apartment, but I might not have access to that apartment later this month. I'd get it sent to my house, but my dad takes my mail and hides it.
I wish I could live on the streets but I'm not confident that I can recover from that.
I'm 25, about to be 26. I live in North Carolina. I'm a minority AFAB woman.... please someone guide me towards some help.
Submitted March 07, 2022 at 08:27PM by xXVoicesXx https://ift.tt/fuLBP5F
