I will try to be as clear as possible. I apologize in advance for my bad grammar, and how difficult I come off as making this. I really don’t know if it’s possible. I’ll include key points.
Long unnecessary story short, I live with my girlfriend, and walk 10mins to work 6 days of the week. The relationship is controlling, which would be a whole other subject, but for the sake of not wasting time, this can not be changed currently.
I am literally, not figuratively, allowed to have any money. She holds my bank card, and if she gives it to me for any reason, I have to provide a receipt that matches exactly with the online records. She of course has access to my bank online, but is not on the account.
I do not own a vehicle, and I really can’t go anywhere without her except for work. Occasionally drive her car or walk to corner store, so gone maybe 20mins. I can’t get myself to any bank without her being aware. Cell phone is in her name and tracked. The only physical access I have outside of the house, without her, would be ATM at corner store, or at work. Work has said that they will not split direct deposit with a paper check. And I also was wondering, if I am some how able to get them to make an exception for me, would my bank online show her that’s what I did?
And since I am at work when mail is delivered, there’s no chance of receiving new bank account debit cards by mail. And definitely can’t have any transfers between banks or accounts that she can see.
I’m trying everything I can think of, to find a way to get a small enough portion of my check ($40-$50) a week maybe, so I can easily explain it with hours, so that I can save to be able to get out without being homeless or hungry. Would also be really enjoyable to be able to buy a soda or some good greasy food on lunch sometimes, and not just whatever I can take from home which is sometimes nothing. Also I have an iPhone so I know I can do the Apple Pay stuff and I believe some banks let the atm use it, but I can’t have her finding a debit card in the mail.
Only way I can see maybe doing this is some how through online only. Skipping any mail coming to the apartment, and skipping me having to physically be somewhere. Because she will know. If I forget to tell her when I leave work, and text her 5mins into the walk, she knows and wants a reason, and it’s never acceptable or believed.
So I’ll try my hand at the key points thing here.
:No vehicle :Can’t physically get to anything but ATM and work without secrecy failing. :Online bank account is monitored :Mail is out of my control :Work to the best of my knowledge won’t split direct deposit with paper.
That’s it I believe. I’m sorry it’s a little sloppy and probably confusing. And even reading it, it seems I’m asking too much with all the restrictions out of my control. If there’s any info needed please just tell me what I missed. I’m lost and at a wall, and need some extra, better brains to help me find a way around it. There’s always a way. Please any ideas at all.
And I’m sorry if I did too much personal/sob/complaining type stuff that may have broken any of the rules, was not my intent and I can edit if shown my mistakes.
Thank y’all for your time, even if you don’t know what I could do either. Thank you for trying.
Submitted October 08, 2021 at 05:22AM by MyUnAlteredMind https://ift.tt/3oIkUqp
