We are going for a mediumly expensive family meal to celebrate my father's 80th birthday.
At the meal will be my mother and father (80 year olds, both on very good pensions), my brother, his wife and two adult children (both parents on very good wages, both children on normal wages) now plus the adult boyfriend of one daughter on a normal wage). Then there is me, my husband and our adult son ( only my husband working, normal wage, son is a uni student who works part time too).
My father was going to pay for us all (he is a proud man) but I knew he was worried so proposed putting in three credit cards (one being my parents, one being my brother's family, and one being us) and splitting the bill equally 3 ways.
I know that really that means we come out of the deal rather worse off but I was ok with that until the boyfriend was added to the meal and now I'm feeling we should do something different...like split the bill into 10 for 10 people and my parents pay 2 parts, us 3 parts and my brother 5 parts (according to how many people in the group).
Would I be a stingy git to suggest that? We are struggling financially and I think that is common knowledge but i don't want to turn the meal into penny pinching "well you had the steak but I only had a salad" stuff and i don't want a big palaver at the table working out people's proportions.
I was wondering if I could ask my brother the pay the whole thing and settle up with him later. I'd do it but we'd go very overdrawn. If my father pays the whole thing, we'd pay him back but my brother tends not to get around to things like that.
OMG. Tell me what to do!
Submitted August 26, 2021 at 04:52AM by KindMum https://ift.tt/3kqjgpD
