Hello, I'm new to the reddit thing and this will be my first post, but loving the resources to pull on here and have read many people's stories.
I've been in my job for 8 years now and I enjoy what I do, and genuinely like where I'm at and most of the people I work with, the last 7 as a supervisor at a small company (~30-35 employees). In my yearly review in 2018, I did some salary research and found the the market for my position supported a salary of about 17% higher than where I was at, and I mentioned this during my annual review. My manager seemed not very prepared for that number and said they would need to do some research and get back to me. They gave a 3% bump in pay 'to hold me over', and scheduled a followup for 6 months out, with me to focus on a couple new tasks and the obligatory 'things to work on' which were quite trivial, as if they had to spend more time on trying to find flaws in my work rather than researching a fair salary for me.
6 months goes by with no mention of anything. I realize I should have also followed up with my manager, however, as we know, things happen and you get busy, or complacent. I think I actually thought to myself that " oh well, they determined I wasn't getting the raise I asked for, but would have been nice to still have a sit-down about it."
Fast forward to next review time, manager sends me review documents to complete and turn in, which I do within 1-2 days. Nothing ever gets scheduled. I talk to HR lady about it, no followup, and then she was let go. That defaulted the HR position to? yup, my boss. no 2019 review.
Fast forward another year, it's a pandemic. My company lays off everyone except supervisors that they've asked to stay on. So now I'm frantically doing the work of 3-5 other people along with mine, while they make more than me on unemployment at home. This means my 40hr week turns into 45-50 every week for about 14 months(no overtime pay). After being vocal about how I can't do the job of 3-5 people, because pandemic or not, no part of my job has slowed down, the rest of the team is eventually rehired, and I'm still putting in 45-50hrs a week. Anyways, pandemic = worst time ever to ask for a raise. Knowing the answer would be no, I didn't ask. No raise for 2020.
Fast forward - it's April 2021, and I'm scheduling reviews for the small team of people I supervise. I go over my notes with my manager letting them know my plans about who gets raises, how much, what they need to work on, etc., while also mentioning that it's been 3 years since I've had a review and I would like to schedule mine. A week or so later, I complete my team's reviews and go over feedback with manager, and again, no sign/mention of my review coming.
June 2021 - Do salary research and find that my salary is near the bottom 10% (I had pulled averages for low, median, and higher wages from 9 online salary calculators/estimators like indeed, payscale, salary.com, monster, glassdoor, etc.) of people with jobs similar to mine. Average for my position, education (bachelors), and experience (8yrs), supports a median salary of ~29% more than I currently make. (Remembering this is 3 years after it being 17% higher than my pay.) I believe I do a much better than average job, as I am skilled at what I do (maybe not top 90%, but better than average, which has been mentioned/supported in previous reviews.) I ask my boss for a meeting to review my compensation, it gets scheduled. I complete review documents highlighting the accomplishments over the last 3 years, and genuinely think I've been killing it, and have no reason not to think that, because if I was shitting the bed, I would have expected to have been pulled aside and addressed.
Meeting day - my manager starts out with the foot on the gas and proceeds to basically kick me in the balls for 2 straight hours and I can barely get a word in without rudely interrupting. None of the achievements I listed were mentioned, and instead it was all mainly focused on perceived flaws in my team management. But I'll have it noted, one of my team suddenly retired 2 weeks ago and their exit interview(completed by my boss) had a great review of me, as well as I'm the only one to have had someone on my team do well enough to be promoted to a different department as a supervisor, not only once, but twice in the last 3 years. So clearly I'm doing something decent? I'm shocked at this meeting, definitely did not go the way I was planning. But I gather myself, complete the day, and go home and talk things over with the wife for another viewpoint and a great support system. I write down as much as I can remember to address the next day. Since I was blindsided, I was not prepared to respond to a lot of the things mentioned, even if I had the opportunity to respond to anything during this ball-kicking session. I had an unrelated meeting scheduled the next day, and once that topic was completed, I asked to go over a few things from the previous day, and to my manager's credit, they listened the whole time, and apologized multiple times for how it all went down and it seemed genuine, truly. I have another meeting in one week, in which I believe there will be talk about the actual raise, which the manager initially hinted they were initially thinking only 5%. Unsure if the second meeting will have an impact, but I do believe i made my boss realize how shitty they have been treating me. However, the attack the day before is one I'll never forget, as I don't think anyone should be treated that way. I equate it to getting so mad at a significant other that you slip and call them one of the big swear words. You can apologize all you want, but it happened and they'll always remember it.
What could/should I have done to have a better outcome here?
I will update after the meeting in a week if people are interested in updates.
Submitted July 17, 2021 at 01:13AM by redditsatrap https://ift.tt/3xNV9Xl
