My parents lost the family house back when there was a housing crash in 2008. My mom divorced my dad after him gambling and drinking for years, he still hasn’t changed.
She will never be able to buy a home again. She is almost 70. She is a manager at costco and has been there for a very long time, and has good benefits/some retirement, but by herself she will never be able to buy a home again and she constantly vents about how sad she is that she lost everything she worked so hard for in life because of my father. She went bankrupt back when they lost the house.. has no debt and lives in a cute apartment but she wishes she could own something again to pass down to her kids. We live in a very very HCOLA.
My dad is couch surfing and still gambling all his money away, he is on unemployment/disability and gambles every cent. And also cries to everyone about how he lost everything after working so hard...
It wearing on me. It makes me so depressed to see my mom work so hard her whole life and not be where she wants to be. I actually went through a depression phase where I couldn’t get out of bed because of how sad I was about the old house/the fact that she’s unhappy that she lost everything. With how the housing market is, it’s hard to rebuild your life. I’m there for her emotionally as much as possible.
Anyways, had to get this off my chest. Anyone else have similar issues with worrying about their parents well being and finances, or does everyone else have parents that have huge equities in their homes and are siting pretty right now? Feeling pretty alone at the moment. And I don’t know how to help my mom. It just sucks worrying so much about my parents and also trying to enjoy my own life without feeling guilty about getting ahead, etc..
Submitted May 02, 2021 at 10:28PM by jaellys https://ift.tt/339OUzy
