I just started a job that has good compensation, a rate that effectively doubles the collective income from my older siblings and parents. Everyone already knows my fully salary details so I can't hide or lie about how much I make. Don't get me wrong, I am all about supporting them the the extent that they will never go hungry, homeless, and will be able to enjoy life within reason (like buy them a plane ticket somewhere every once in a while for example).
I really don't like this notion that I am ready to throw money at whatever they want and they can essentially live off me. One showed me a $4000 refrigerator and said that's where my first paycheck is going. I haven't made a dollar yet. I still have student loans and a car to pay off. And a life to live while I'm young if that's worth anything. I'm trying to figure out how to approach this so that I don't end up frustrated and have to cut people off or spoil a relationship. I thought about making a budget and deciding how much I should allocate to family members for various expenses, so that I'm comfortable with spending an amount that I don't need for myself.
Any advice on how much would be fair? Has anyone else had this problem and has advice to share?
Submitted January 24, 2021 at 08:40PM by PictoChris https://ift.tt/3c6ZxIZ
