My mother and I live with my grandmother in her house and is incredibly senile and literally cannot do for herself. We have to explain to her step by step how to use the bathroom every time she goes, she gets hateful when we try to stop her from doing things that would hurt her (touching the hot stove top, putting fingers in sockets, etc.) , and on more than one occasion she has threatened to kill us.
My uncle has power of attorney and has done fuck all about putting her in a nursing home for over 2 years even though it is very clear that she needs to be in one. I'm pretty sure he's siphoning her retirement checks for himself. The rest of my family seemingly can't be bothered by the situation and they have the general mindset of 'not seeing a problem'.
We can't do this much longer, my mom is physically unwell and I'm not mentally stable enough to do this anymore. Neither of us have gotten any sort of decent rest or relaxation in over a month and every one I talked to about the issue just gives me a very black-and-white, no substance answer that hurts more than helps.
Our overall problem is that we live in her house and have been told that if we personally take her to a home, the home will take the house and we will have to vacate that day. We can't find another place to live when that happens because with her here, she literally takes up all of our time and energy.
Is there anything we can do about this or are we stuck in this waking nightmare until she dies? Any help would be greatly appreciated, to say I'm desperate is a massive understatement.
If it helps I live in VA, USA.
Submitted November 30, 2020 at 10:07PM by FinancialThrowa https://ift.tt/39HLqcb
