Hi, So I need advice. I’ll make the backstory quick. Essentially, tonight was the last straw for me with my relationship with my mother. My mother has always been a bit neurotic with mood swings (ever since I was a kid). She took a hammer to a laptop that my biological father bought me when I was 11 because that’s how angry she was. But for the most part she’s nice and l can have a good conversation with her and we can establish a loving relationship. Other times, certain things might set her off and she just gets angry and unreasonable. Tonight was it and I can’t handle it. I am tired of trying to please her.
Unfortunately, all my financial ties are with her. I have my own debit card with plenty of funds to cut off ties with her but she can see all of my bank activity through a connected account. She also has access to my credit cards (I have zero balance right now). In addition, she still pays for my phone. Also the car I have is tied to my sister’s name. I would have to give my sister a bit over 3 grand (which I can afford) to pay it off. I want to do this so my sister can put the car in my name and I have it as a resource. But I am afraid my sister may rat me out to my mom about the fact that I’m trying to escape and get freedom. My sister is older and lives elsewhere. I still live with my mother.
I’m not sure if this is the right place to post, but what would be a start or how do I get financial independence from her? Should I do things gradually or everything all at once?
Submitted May 15, 2020 at 10:40PM by crazymonkieface https://ift.tt/2LwBrcd
