I was born in a poor family.
We are not that poor anymore, because all my family members worked hard. I am a student & I work a lot and save a lot. However, my habits are still of a poor person = stingy.
It's good to be stingy for purchases. But I am afraid that I am stingy with my friends and relatives too.
I am lucky to have people who always gifts me what I need and help me out in times of need. I need to repay them, so I am making conscious efforts to do so by writing them letters and celebrating their birthdays together with thoughtful presents.
But I do small calculative things. For example, I feel cheated when I ate a cheap meal thinking that I'll pay for what I ate, but people just divides it by the number of people and pay the amount.
I also remember how much I owe people to the cents and remember to pay them. Last time I owed my friend $2 and paid her back... She was like "you didn't have to". There was also an instance where I owed someone 40c and I paid her back. It's because as a child, those little cents meant a lot to me. But I feel like it may make me look like an eccentric person.
When I'm planning for a graduation trip with friends, they would say they'll be fine with $3000 - 4000 Budget, but I calculate the amount of money I can save & I say $3570 would be the MAXIMUM amount I can spend on this trip.
It's those things that makes me stand out a little. I can make room for a $4000, so I shouldn't be too out there with my budget, but I can't help calculating the 'safe amount' at the back of my head. I want to let go of all these thoughts, and enjoy a little bit of financial freedom.
What do you think, and how would you act in my situation?
Submitted May 11, 2019 at 10:51AM by mintkandy http://bit.ly/2HcGcoM
