hey y’all
facing a bit of a bind here and would like to get some advice currently i have two college choices that i’ve boiled it down to that are good financial decisions and would like to know which is better
i have a full tuition scholarship to my very close to home state school. my parents would be paying around 9.5 k every year for my room and board and book fees etc. this school has an honors college and it’s higher ranked than my second option
my second option is a school around two hours away but i’ll essentially be getting a full ride with a stipend and probably will pay a lot less, i haven’t calculated exactly but it looks like it’ll be around 4k per year especially if i’m getting a car and what not. they have an honors college too but they are less highly ranked and are in a small town unlike the other which is a bigger city (more opportunity and such). i haven’t applied yet but due to my stats and profile, they have rolling admission and i’m guaranteed to get in with that scholarship. there’s also a study abroad stipend. i think the drawback here is that i basically have to live on campus because they give. ahousing stipend when i might be able to live off campus renting an apartment is something at option A
side note but my third option for a full ride is at U Alabama Huntsville and I believe it’s very generous with scholarships but i haven’t looked into that very closely.
the issue is my parents. my parents particurly my mom has made my life living hell for the past four years. she demonstrates all the characteristics of a narcissist (raised my narcissists?) and i think she is mentally ill. i’ve gotten into some pretty good private colleges and public unis but if i go i’ll be paying full sticker price. i’m pretty sure she won’t allow that considering she hates me and is always physically and verbally abusive to everyone in the family. what should i do?
on one hand i want to cut them off completely because they then don’t have the capacity to hold anything over my head and i’ll finally be free. at the same time i almost want to be avengeful and just go to the better state uni so they have to pay because if not, i’m basically letting them off the hook. it’s almost like i’m “forgiving” them by ensuring they don’t have to pay anything even when they have the means to contribute like 9k per year for my schooling. if my parents have the extra cash i know without a doubt my mom will spend it to go on “family” vacations or just blow the money on going out to eat. of course this isn’t my position to judge. looking at my situation what would you do?
don’t give self sabotaging advice please.
Submitted April 22, 2019 at 11:35PM by stuffandcrab http://bit.ly/2Gtb4Rr
