Hi everyone.
Usually I am on reddit for a way to disconnect from serious issues and just look at stuff related to my hobbies, but today I am in need of guidance.
I live in SC and my mom is in IL. I am 31 years old and she is 61.
A little about me: I am married, have a 10 year old son, and am a full time student. I am a junior getting my bachelors and also an Officer candidate for the Marine Corps, I go to OCS this summer under a PLC contract. My wife has her Masters and my son is applying for honors programs for middle school. We have a very busy life here. We own our house (only 1500 sqft, 2 bedroom), and are preparing to move back to Illinois once I finish my degree in another 1.5 years (my wife will transfer with her job during my time at TBS). We have very little savings because we live a very “Dave Ramsay” lifestyle; paid off cars, most credit card debts, and am working on student loans. We only have a $1,500 safety net.
About my mom: She and my dad are divorced. Dad has retirement that she gets some of, it is not much (about $400 a month). Neither have anything in savings. Mom is 100% disabled and receives money for that and also for her medical coverages (medicaid, etc). She is in a HUD building which is very nice and has a nurse come see her every few days. She has Type 2 diabetes, and her liver has completely failed. She is on medication to reduce the toxins going to her brain due to the liver failure but her mental state is quickly worsening. She has signs of Alzheimer’s due to it and her physical state is equivalent to someone in their 80s. She has high blood pressure and is on somewhere between 10 and 15 different medications (I honestly cant keep up anymore).
Yesterday she fell shortly after her nurse left the house, her alert necklace fell behind her and she couldn’t reach it. Her phone was across the room. My aunt found her today, she had been on the floor for 12 hours and was taken to the hospital. The paramedics say she could have broke her hip and or shoulder as well, but we are waiting for results from the doctors.
I was not quite ready for these issues so young, and I have no ability to post pone my life plans. I needed an age waiver to get selected for OCS and if I miss one semester of school I will no longer legally be able to commission as it would push my graduation past my 34th bday. So I am looking for some guidance on how to proceed, or hear some experiences from others that may have gone through this and how they provided care for their parent(s).
Thanks everyone.
Submitted January 02, 2019 at 08:05PM by boxinabag http://bit.ly/2BYMuFI
