I'm 28 now, single, and do well for myself financially. I have no debt. Not crazy rich like some people I see here, but after last month's cards are paid to $0, utilities, rent, food, retirement, fun, etc, I have 2k remaining in discretionary that I throw into a 1.9% ally bank savings account to run alongside equities, just in case.
Two of my closest friends are marrying each other after nearly a decade, and I had friendships with them both prior to them dating. They both lived with me at various points in our lives and I'll be in the wedding next year.
The tricky thing is, they don't do as well as I do financially and we rarely discuss it because the bride is drowning in student loans and works a min wage job, and the groom is keeping them afloat. They live together and sold a car to share one car together. I've picked her up from work time to time.
I really do love them so much and without thinking I offered them help to pay for the wedding, and they said no (they are keeping it as small as they can, trying not to go over 10k). I'm debating quietly giving them a check in their wedding cards for $1,000 each, the amount that would usually go into the ally bank account each month.
Is that amount normal for super close friends? I was reading online that $50-100 is normal for weddings but that feels like too little for these two. I genuinely want to give them this as they've been such great friends for so many years, but don't want them to view it as an insult or charity if my donation is 1/5th the cost of the entire wedding. What do?
TLDR: Is a $2,000 gift at a wedding appropriate for close friends who are trying to keep the wedding small, don't make a lot of money + are in debt, and already declined my help paying for the wedding itself?
Submitted November 02, 2018 at 11:21AM by Yenick https://ift.tt/2qoMeur
