Hi guys, it’s my first post on PF but I’ve lurked awhile.
So I got a new job and I will now be making $43000 a year which was a huge increase from my last job, $34000 a year.
My SO makes $34000 a year and we were ok. We weren’t struggling, but weren’t able to save much either.
Our plan is to pay off our CCs in full (3-6 month short term goal), then our student loans (6-12 month goal), and then do our emergency fund (12 month to 2 year goal).
After our emergency goal is done, we really want to save up for the honeymoon we never got to take.
But we were doing our budget last night and although we decided to just go half on all our bills, he did want me to completely take over childcare costs. It’s $600-800 for childcare, depending on which one I pick.
I just...don’t think it’s fair that I take the whole $600+ bill of childcare just because I make more.
We have two girls together, one son is his from a previous relationship but he’s in primary school and my in laws take care of him after school, and the other child is mine from a previous relationship but also in primary and my parents will watch him after school (I compensate my parents already for this but I included that in MY bills, not the shared bills we have).
Childcare is for my daughters since they’re 3 yers old and under and do not attend preschool.
I also forgot to mention: SO doesn’t pitch in for groceries, that usually falls on me. He’s paid for groceries a handful of times since we’ve been together and I’m usually the one who pays the housekeeper.
I guess I’d just like to have some room to put money into some new clothes (I’ve been thrifting since I was waaaaay young; can’t remember the last time I bought myself something new). SO has hobbies he invests to because he has that extra money from not having to pay childcare. It kinda makes me resent him for it and makes me feel selfish for feeling this way.
TL;DR Got a new job with pay increase and we split bills down the middle but I have to do all of childcare costs because I make more. I feel jilted. HELP.
Submitted October 31, 2018 at 05:45AM by violent-amethyst https://ift.tt/2CQbkKc
