Hello all. Thanks for taking the time to read this and hopefully give me some advice. I've been dating someone the past couple years, and there's an issue that's been bothering me. She has about $500,000 in debt. She's currently working a job where she brings in about $140,000-$160,000. She owns a house, owns her car, works hard, and says she has a plan to pay it off in the years to come.
Now for my side: I'm a student who is going into a well-paying medical field. I am incredibly fortunate-- my parents worked hard to provide me a debt-free education; they have always told me a debt-free education is their gift to me. So, I guess my question is, how could I avoid getting locked up in paying down my girlfriend's debt should we get married? What if someday we happen to have kids and she chooses to stay at home, which leaves her interest growing and debt unpaid? I don't mean for this to sound spoiled or selfish, but I'm really having a hard time getting comfortable with contributing to $500,000 of debt after my parents worked so hard to provide me a way to escape such a situation.
I'd gladly pay the cost of everything else in our lives-- the house, kids' education, etc, because those are some costs I feel I'd have some control. So, I'd like to get some advice or feedback. I really hope this doesn't come across as selfish, as I do love my girlfriend very much. Thank you!
Submitted September 02, 2018 at 09:05AM by gumbys_gubernaculum https://ift.tt/2owFUQB
