I'm a SAHM in a very HCOL place (inner Bay Area). I still manage to keep our family spending around $36k a year. Rent is about $26k a year, we live in a low income area. Our friends and relatives just think we are low income because we are renting and don't buy frivolous crap.
I'm extremely good at finding deals, coupon cutting, etc. We live a very good life, my kids have very nice things (many given by family), we have the latest tech stuff, healthy organic food, cable, etc.
But, my husband feels like I have an obsession with saving money. He makes a good salary (350k+) and feels like we should no longer be living this way.
He is trying to force me to spend $200/month on frivolous things like doing my nails/buying fancy clothes. I just can't do it. I hate spending money. It's just psychologically difficult. I feel like I'm losing something.
He also wants to move to a better neighborhood and buy an SUV. We currently drive a small compact car. I feel like we are fine where we are until our kids need to go to school.
How to get my husband to see frugality is part of who I am. I can't spend $200 on frivolous things - i just can't. I don't want to move to a more expensive area. Any one dealt with similar issues?
July 17, 2018 at 04:11PM
