I believe this will be the final entry in what is, now, a month-long emotional rollercoaster. The previous posts can be found here: first and second.
First and foremost, I’d like to take a moment and thank this rather amazing community. Our world can be pretty rough, harsh words are abundant, and apathy is never in short supply. Some scared, ignorant guy asked for help at a particularly challenging juncture and you people went above and beyond. I received some really great recommendations about financial preparedness, but I also received comprehensive insight concerning the legal, administrative, and even emotional aspects. So many of you just reached out to say something kind. I can honestly say that I was overwhelmed by your collective kindness; I did my best to respond to each of your comments and PMs and I apologize if I missed yours.
Now, some of you asked to be updated regarding my condition, how things panned out, etc. So, good news, everyone- I probably won’t be dying anytime soon, at least not because of my unwelcome guest. I received a second MRI that focused on the area, a battery of tests and labs, and a number of consults with experts in the fields concerned (endocrinology, ophthalmology, neurology, etc.) and everything points toward me probably being fine. The blob doesn’t appear to be cancer and it doesn’t currently have any affect on my quality of life. That being said I’ll have to keep a closer eye on things because there will always be some threat to my vision and endocrine system, but it's marginal and I’m completely happy with how things turned out.
I strongly recommend visiting the previous posts, specifically the second, and at least skimming the parent comments. Some final near-incoherent ramblings to round off this post:
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Life changes quick. We all know some jagoff that’s compelled to make a tragedy about themselves and share similar sentiments on social media, despite not really even being involved in the situation. People like that have really cheapened a valuable lesson. My life was going amazingly until some guy told me I may very well be fucked.
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Be an adult and address this rather simple aspect of life/death. It takes minimal effort and resources and it will spare your loved ones a ridiculous amount of inconvenience. Take care of it while it’s optional because it really sucked to deal with it while under the gun, so to speak. I had nightmares just about every night for the past month centered on my wife. It was some real Sopranos shit; I’d usually see her having a complete breakdown over a pile of scattered papers because I left her hanging. Death didn’t really bother me because I couldn’t get over the pain I would have caused.
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Go see an estate planning attorney. These guys make a relatively simple process even simpler. More importantly, they’re familiar with laws that vary from place to place and they have experience with aspects of the post-death process that many of us may overlook and would otherwise prove to be pitfalls.
Feel free to reach out with any questions or if you need some help with this stuff. Thank you r/personalfinance, you're the fiscally responsible parents that I never had.
Submitted May 13, 2018 at 04:39PM by Snicklefreetz https://ift.tt/2wFpzjw
