Hi Reddit community. Im a 25 year old man with a 6 month old baby boy and my wife has just been collected by the ambulance and police after trying to harm herself. She has had a history of attempting suicide 4 times before i met her 2 years ago. My situation is that i am on a student visa in Australia and i am limited to 40 hours a fortnight and that money just covers my living expenses. No savings, -$1500 in credit card. Family member may loan up to $2k.
Baby receives some allowance under centerlink which is like welfare in America. Amount not yet known to dad. Thats mum’s secret ( dad’s gift to her) Probably $250-$350. Mom also receives some allowance for study, family tax benefit, all this lends her at about $700+ per fortnight. She used to help with groceries and baby food, care and even pay bills I can’t meet. Mom says she can help by forwarding baby allowance to family account each week. Car is hers and she agreed to transfer it to my name but it has $420 per month repayments + maintenance. Sometimes i pay the car installments sometimes she does.
Usually with moms help, After all bills and living expenses, i may be left with $200-300 per fortnight. But that’s because i have two jobs and sometimes I pick a shift or two from the other job to help support.
Visa still under valuation has to be 2 years after you get married that they start to process your papers. Being a tough life as it was i managed to break a few visa regulations including stopping study (college got closed after anyway) and move to a different city plus working over specified hours. No criminal record.
I have family in a nearby suburb who can help look after baby but I would like to not bother them too often.
Any knowledge concerning visas/child support/ being a carer for a suicidal person/ budgeting is greatly appreciated thank you reddit.
It’s 5:30 in the morning in Australia and i am off to sleep will be back sometime after sleeping. Have a good night/day everyone.
Edit: update.
Thank you very much to all those who commented with help. This morning my wife was discharged and she is resting in bed. Baby is with my brother’s family at the moment. I am still worried about her safety and well-being. She will start medication tomorrow after seeing GP. All our parents are in Africa. About the car loan, this service is offered by NISSAN Financial service but will transfer to our usual bank to make everything manageable. The marriage/partner visa waiting period in Australia is a mandatory 2year wait before it is processed. This is to make sure that you are really together and not soon broken up. Thank you again for all your help, Have a nice day everyone.
Submitted January 28, 2018 at 01:32PM by guy-simba http://ift.tt/2rJYzNb
