We are 4 years together. I am the main income and the minister of finances of our kingdom. Every day I open the budget sheet, check if every dollar is working as expected and do my best to balance our expenses vs a good life.
She is an amazing girl, and she is great at many things. Budgeting is definitively not on that list. This kind of responsibility is simply not in her veins, she has no interest in saving, and will most of the time spend on not so useful stuff or will choose more expensive brands than simpler ones (i.e. I had to convince her that the fancy coffee brewer paper filter is no different than the less expensive one from Costco - yeah, that kind of level).
Currently, her responsibility is to provide a fixed amount every month - I do the managing and give her a feedback if we are ok or not for the months to come.
A couple of weeks ago we had a harsh discussion - again, she wanted to buy the fancy brand of XYZ thing and I told her that she had to control herself on these choices. That's where she shouted that I am a paranoiac with money, that I should loosen up a bit and it was becoming a really annoying situation. And that's where I gave her a lesson on how much of my money was put onto our household vs her amount. I divide the amounts based on percentage of income. Since I make more, I pay more... Still, her part is less than what she should provide.
Now she seems to have understood what's going on, but she feels really uncomfortable with it, and I can feel it in our relationship - something is not right, and it is because of money.
So I want to involve her more into the budgeting of our household, and show her where the expenses are, what is going on, explain the importance of saving, etc. but in a fun way, not to desperate her or anything - for her, money is evil.
Unfortunately I have no idea on how.
Money is something cold... There is no love in it, and I cannot pay mortgage with love, yet.
If you guys have any idea on how to, I thank you in advance for your help.
Submitted December 14, 2017 at 08:47AM by katriik http://ift.tt/2C4XAaY
