I'm 27f, software engineer, make about 85k/year. He is 25m, sales manager, makes 50k/year. We split the rent and utilities down the middle. However, any time we go out anywhere I pay, whether it is dinner, events, etc. I feel compelled since I make more money. I haven't minded until now. As it turns out, I'll end up paying for the wedding and honeymoon as well, totaling about 8k.
I'm planning on sitting down with him and sharing my budget and asking to see his as well. But I have some debt that I want to pay off, and frankly I don't even want a regular wedding. I wanted to elope, but he wanted to be able to invite his family (and his mom threw a fit), so now we're having a traditional wedding.
I know that when we get married everything will be shared anyways, but I want to be selfish. I would rather spend that money on paying off a car or saving for a house. And he doesn't make that much less than I do, so should I keep paying for everything?
I suppose this would be appropriate for /r/relationships as well, but I wanted to get the finance side of it as well.
Submitted September 30, 2017 at 01:37PM by chooseausername23456 http://ift.tt/2ygyyHS
