A bride and groom are looking for some third party help figuring out a fair way to divide the gift money to recoup some of the expenses from the wedding. Each has their own bank accounts and spent a good deal of their own money on the wedding. For context, the groom makes twice as much as the bride, and pays the bills (mortgage, city taxes, school taxes, all the utilities, 90% of groceries, etc), and the bride’s income goes toward saving for expensive American medical school. The bride is not from the US, so 80% of the guests were on the groom’s side. One point of contention is the fact that the bride’s family overseas who were unable to attend gave a lot more than those who did attend, and that the money was given for the couple to start their lives together, not to pay for the meals of Americans whose gifts didn’t cover it.
Here are some potentially relevant numbers in case people wanted to ask:
Total cost of the wedding: $21,000
Paid by groom: $7,300
Paid by groom’s parents: $5,450
Paid by bride’s parents: $5,000
Paid by bride: $3,250
There were $425 worth of kitchen item gifts, and $325 of Amazon gift cards, 95% from the groom’s side.
As far as cash gifts, this is how it was divided:
From grooms side: $5136 (65 adult guests)
From bride’s side: $1150 (17 adult guests)
From bride’s family not attending: $2960 (5 families)
So both the bride and the groom want their expenses covered the most fair way possible and feel third party opinions would be the best way to approach it. What do people think is best?
Submitted September 28, 2017 at 03:25PM by wedding2017 http://ift.tt/2k5HU2R
