In a nutshell, I have undergone a rapid change from being single bachelor to being married and having 3 kids (2 of which are mine and an older stepchild). Basically, I went from being set for life as far as money worries go (due to my frugal habits and amazing ability to save money) to living paycheck to paycheck trying to take care of their extreme consumption (in all aspects, not just money).
The problem here is that I always thought I had enough in savings, and would have the frugal tactics to stay afloat, but unfortunately it's become too much and they've even burned through almost all my savings in 3 yrs. I've tried cutting back, and I am a member of this board, so believe me I am making sacrifices, but my wife doesn't help. She has a bit of a "pleasure principle" of her own and I fear she is raising my children the same way.
I'm tired of cutting back on my own expenses, only paying for necessities only to see her go out and buy more toys for them, or luxury items for herself to make her feel better. Sometimes I have to use a credit card just to get gas in my car so I can get to work the next day. She has made improvements and spends nowhere near what she used to when I met her. Since there is so much improvement there, any talk of saving is considered "overboard" as she only buys what's necessary now.
It's beating me down and I guess I'm just looking for support and advice from anyone going through the same. Thanks for reading.
August 28, 2017 at 01:24PM
