Type something and hit enter

ads here
On
advertise here

Hey everyone, I thought this is the right place to post this thread but if it isn't please direct me to the best place.

First, I wish anyone of you that smokes please consider how it affects the loved ones around you. I'm an advocate of free choice, but these last couple weeks have been very hard. My father has smoked for 50+ years. He is now 65 and has been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer that has spread to his lymph nodes. Our family is not taking it well, but we are trying to be optimistic at this point. He has about a 5-10% chance of survival with treatment, and is expected to live another 8 - 15 months.

Morbid things aside, I am at a loss for what to do when the inevitable happens. Both of my parents are retired so they receive pensions from their teacher federation, have a decent amount of savings, and are mostly debt free. There are only my mother, brother and father in our family unit. My father is the money guy in the family and my mother does not know how to do anything. She is tehnologically inept and can barely navigate Facebook.

So the question is - what do I do? I'm assuming I will have to take over as head of the family and manage my parents finances, but I'm not sure how to do this. My mother is in failing health as well and will be unable to take care of her house when my father is gone, so how do I convince her to move to the city that my brother and I live in? She has a 3000+ square foot house that will require a lot of maintenance if she keeps it. She will be unable to do things for herself around the house such as lawn care and snow removal, and the house is located 1.5 hours from the city that my brother lives in.

Is there a checklist or guidelines that I can show my father to put into place before he passes? Such as bank info, how to pay the mortgage, etc? How do I approach my parents about future plans when the inevitable happens? What steps do I need to take so that I can minimize problems after he passes? I live in Canada if that is any help.

Sorry for the scatter brained post, it's been a long weekend and I'm trying to gather all of my thoughts in one place. I appreciate any help.



Submitted July 10, 2017 at 10:37AM by TaurusBull http://ift.tt/2v3Cc20

Click to comment