Hi everyone.. I hope I'm posting to the right place.. I didn't know where else to turn.
I've been in a very long relationship and we've always had quite different work ethics. She was raised to think that if you're not working, you're being a slacker, but my take on it is that as long as I bring in a similar amount of money as her on average.. we should be even.
I really get depressed when I have to work a 9-5 job. I don't like the work I do.. but I make 6 figures. My ideal in this situation is to be in zero debt, or even better to have passive income. I should be able to work when I want so long as I am paying the bills and meeting long term financial goals.
Despite that, she is getting sick of me taking several months off while she slaves away working overtime and getting paid half of what I make.
Recently, we have taken out a loan to pay for the renovation of our second property. We actually only have 2 properties because she wants to live in the city and me in the country. If not for that, we'd be zero debt and hence you could have a job making nearly minimum wage to get by.. instead we are severely financially stressed.
Anyway... after all these years, she only recently said something along the lines of her wanting to get us into debt as it would force me to stop being so "lazy". It seems even when I show her the math that I am bringing in the same amount of money each year, she thinks I'm being a mooch.
I am posting this to you, not to seek justification for my behavior, but maybe just to see if I'm out of line in my thinking or if you think I should part ways fincancially? We could always do a fincancial divorce, I guess.. BTW, she is an amazing person, and I don't want to split ways (if I can help it).. I'm only talking about money and retirement goals here.
Submitted June 01, 2017 at 05:06AM by siriusbport http://ift.tt/2rWDTkg
