BACKSTORY
My grandmother has three children, my father, Aunt number 1, and Aunt number 2. My father at one point was pretty well off financially until 2008 when the crash happened. He lost everything and was never able to recover. He changed ever since and it seems he's almost developed a sort of mental illness around the topic of money and how to obtain it quickly. For example, he is very into scams and falls for them all of the time. Now he just lives off of social security.
Aunt number 1 has never been financially well off, lives off of social security and is pretty crazy. She is also the executor of the will.
Aunt number 2 is rich and has a bad relationship with my father and Aunt number 1. Reasons are because my father took 250k from her in an attempt to start a business (which turns out was a scam) and she never forgave him.
END OF BACKSTORY
To preface this story I have not seen any paperwork or the will but it is being sent to me through the mail which I should receive shortly.
So my grandmother died at the beginning of May and now her estate is being divided up equally among my father, Aunt 1, and Aunt 2. The only difference was that my grandmother apparently had included me in the will to receive 10% of my fathers share. It was no secret that I was her favorite grandchild and she has done many generous things for me in the past like buy me a car outright when I was 17.
My Aunt contacted me yesterday telling me that my grandmother had changed her mind about including me in the will. My Aunt said that they had done all of the paperwork but couldn't get the final papers signed to take me out of the will because my grandmother had gotten sick and they didn't have the time to go do it. At first, I believed them but then I started thinking about it and some things seem weird.
The only time I heard about this was after she died.
My Aunt told me I would be getting 24k from the will and that I "need to do the right thing" (giving the money to my father) before I "burn any bridges" which kind of sounds like a threat. I asked her how much money my father was receiving and she refused to tell me. She ended the conversation by jokingly saying "I'm not lying I swear, you can put me to a lie detector test"
I called my dad and asked him what he thought about it and he said "we should honor your grandmother's last wishes" I asked him how much money he would be receiving and he completely dodged my question. I called him out on it and he told me it would be around 90k. If my 10% = 24k then he just lied to me.
They have been blowing up my phone via text message for the last few days asking me if I have gotten anything in the mail.
I don't think they are going to send me a copy of the will. I got a text saying that they are sending paperwork on an annuity and it's going to be separate from the will. They said I need to fill it out "ASAP" and make sure it's "EXACTLY" right.
It seems strange to me that my grandmother would leave me absolutely nothing in the will even though she loved me so much and to change her mind right before she died.
My dad told me over the phone to "keep this in the family" meaning to not tell my mom (divorced my dad many years ago) who is the most level-headed of anybody in my family. She runs a multi-million dollar business etc. I did of course and she thinks they are lying to me or hiding something.
My dad said they found a guy who can get them their money from the will within a week, which I thought was weird because everything I've read states that it takes much longer.
He mentioned going "car shopping" for me after all of this was over which I thought was weird...why wouldn't he just let me keep the money then? Maybe to distract me or out of guilt?
My dad keeps insinuating that this money is his portion of the will and that it belongs to him. I'm going to ask them for proof that this was my grandmother's last wishes and if they can't provide any which I don't think they can then I'm not sure what to do.
I honestly don't care about the money. It would be nice to have obviously but I care so much more about my dad lying to me over money. I was thinking of maybe opening a trust that I control for my dad to pay his bills with the 24k since he isn't responsible enough to do it on his own.
I know my dad will blow through his inheritance if only to pay off his massive debt...or he might send it to some guy in Nigeria to 5x his money in a week. I feel like I could do more for him by keeping it but I know it will destroy my relationship with him and my aunt if I keep what as of now is legally mine.
Sorry for the long winded post. It's been driving me crazy and I had to get it out there. Thank you for any advice it is all super appreciated.
Submitted June 08, 2017 at 11:21AM by yogibearz939 http://ift.tt/2r9L9EV
