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To make a long story short, my mother feels trapped in her relationship with dad as she immigrated here, couldn't afford to go to university, and has no social security to claim (was basically a housewife her entire life). She is financially dependent on my father, who aside from paying rent has never helped her financially (or me for that matter, ever). If they separate he will obviously not help her with any money. My mother would like to avoid a divorce at all costs, as she feels that "it would be money better spent on other things".

My father would be fine as he is retired, had a government job and has a pension in addition to disability benefits.

I'm trying to get ahead in my career as quickly as I can so I can help her out, but I'm still at entry-level. I have about ~$16k in savings, which has come to a standstill now that I'm renting. She has about ~$10k in savings.

The ideal situation would be for her to acquire a career that can help pay for a mortgage, but I can't imagine what career that would be at this point in her life. I'd help her with the down payment, but I'm currently paying for rent living with my boyfriend. It would help if I lived with her... but I'm about to be 28 and I'd like to be able to focus on starting my own life. Perhaps I can make that sacrifice for a year or two once my lease is up. I'm hoping that best case scenario, my mom leaving my dad will be a wake-up call for him to seek psychological help for his narcissistic behavior and severe anxiety that is driving my otherwise emotionally healthy mother crazy.

I understand this is probably more of a mixture of /r/legaladvice and /r/Career_Advice, but I figured I'd start here.



Submitted May 05, 2017 at 07:49PM by birdhustler http://ift.tt/2pPVd6M

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