I'm 40. I have 3 things in my life right now - work, my 2 West Highland Terriers, and hockey.
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Work pays the bills - my mortgage, car payments, gas, insurance, food, utilities, vet bills, hockey gear, etc. It's an easy, mindless desk job that doesn't pay a ton, but comes with lots of security. But I do shift work which means I can't play every 5th week when I'm scheduled to work the evening shift.
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My dogs are both rescues and provide me with unconditional love. Sayu came into my life unexpectedly, given to me by a now ex-friend 2 years ago. I adopted Luffy to keep Sayu company. The large majority of my time at home I'm walking them or giving them belly rubs.
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I'm a hockey goalie so I don't pay to play. But gas runs me about $200 a month getting me from arena to arena. Post-game beers (I only drink ginger ale because I'm a lightweight) are my social life. I play maybe 4-5 times a week, sometimes multiple games to cover for other goalies.
Before Sayu came into my life, I had an extremely active social life. I had 200 people show up for my birthday party but I realized that I didn't need 200 friends that wouldn't be there for me, I just wanted a handful of good ones. Sayu's ex-mom, was someone I spent a lot of time with and when we decided not to be friends anymore I felt that my life was empty. I've spent the last year seeking out new friends, playing more hockey, to not much avail, but I also feel that the dogs keep me tied at home or hockey, since most games are evening games, keeps me from meeting people in a social setting. Or I'll be working evenings or nights and can't attend.
I feel I need to socialize because at some point I would like to find a partner. I'm not actively seeking one, but I still have to put myself out there to avail myself to people. And even without a partner, I wish I had a small intimate group of friends that would only hang out with each other. Most of my hockey friends are married with kids.
Basically I'm saying I have 3 things in my life and I would like to add a 4th, but the other 3 are conflicting with it. How do I even find a balance while still keeping my life simple?
Submitted May 22, 2017 at 08:22PM by oogiewoogie http://ift.tt/2rMRXsM
