I have always been frugal because of growing up in a poor home. I did save and usually have one or two big outings per month with my best friend, avoiding little expenses like fast food ect. and using our money for "big things" that were worth it.
Before marrying my wife I made it very clear that she was marrying into debt, as I have massive student loans which I am trying to pay off. Most of my paycheck goes to my loans, some to bills, and I save what I can for the future and to go out occasionally. I thought we were on the same page..
Now that we are together and I see my money infused with her money, its clear that we're not. She doesn't think twice about eating out 4, 5 times a week. You all know that quickly adds up; $20, $16, $8 per meal is almost a hundred a week. Since I do earn slightly more than she does when it comes time to buy furniture or take on a bill it usually lands on me because she doesn't have enough.
I feel myself getting resentful, but I just don't know how to get through to her. I can't save like I used to because I subsidize her excess spending. Even though we're dual income, I was much better off financially when I was single. Any advice?
April 04, 2017 at 12:20PM
