Also posted to relationship advice at this thread for the relationship part of this, but I want to know what the people of PF think about the financial aspects of this dilemma I am having is. TLDR at bottom.
So basically I am going to have to probably pony up some serious bucks to get my mom surgery and aftercare, that I'm not even sure she wants, to keep her alive.
She gave me a signed and dated piece of paper that stated her last wishes and handed me some valuables because she doesn't trust anyone to honor them.
About me: 24 y.o. living with SO away from home working 2 jobs, PT, no paid time off, anywhere from 32-60 hours a week both at 16 an hour. I have $1,400 (limit $1700) in CC debt (but still a good-ish credit score at about 680, because I'm stupid, about $500 in savings in the bank about to go to fixing my car, and get $450 a week about for one job that is not a flex job (guaranteed 32hrs.).
Dad has his own business that normally does pretty well, but recently my bitch sister (probably on drugs) fucked it up and my dad had to borrow $15,000 from my Uncle to get it back on track. Basically she wrote up invoices as if she did the work and wrote herself the paycheck for it, but never actually did the work. So his accounts are pissed. He is working overtime to fix her fuck ups.
Mom had breast cancer and now has some other cancer that needs fixing as well as a large cyst on the ovaries and some other health issues from a life of alcoholism and hard drugs and partying with my Dad from the time they were teens up till when I was a kid, pretty much. In other words, her health is not great, but the major issues can be fixed.
Problems is nobody wants to take care of her because she's kind of a menace and instigator (my half brother from her side also lives there temporarily and totally could take care of her but he recently also punched her just like everyone else, so I don't think that's a good idea).
I also believe that she may not want to get anything fixed and just let herself die. Her mom (my grandma) died in December and she's super unhappy where she is at, so I would not doubt it. Everything was okay until my bitch sister moved back in cause she got kicked out of her rental (probably on drugs).
Anyways, the TL;DR I stole from my other post:
TL;DR Mom is likely dying if she doesn't go to the hospital and get surgery, pretty sure she doesn't want help and just wants to let death happen, nobody at home wants to take care of her and family finances are pretty fucked, everyone punches everyone, I live away with SO and work 2 jobs and take care of my dog, am pretty tied up with that...
What the fuck do I do, financially? I'm trying to go to UC this Fall and don't want to fuck my finances because I'm definitely going to have to fuck 'em up if I get into the UC with some student loans. Pretty sure I don't qualify for FAFSA because I was a "dependent" last year and my parents claimed me on taxes. Would it be worth taking the non paid time off work for like a week to set everything up and force her to go to the hospital? Would it be worth taking out the loans to get her surgery and post care so I can return to work ASAP? Or should I just let her die and start figuring out the funeral costs? Dad's too busy and nobody else cares.
EDIT: fixed part with credit score- left that out!
Submitted February 27, 2017 at 05:01AM by throwaway3613236 http://ift.tt/2lLGGsh
