TLDR: My estranged mom, almost 65, had a stroke and is also a hoarder living in an uninhabitable home. Cannot afford assisted living facility or in-home care. Also cannot afford to make home livable again.
Apologies if this isn’t easy to follow. My mother had a stroke last night and is currently in the hospital. I haven’t seen her in over a year, but I went to visit her. Upon seeing her, she isn’t in great shape and the medical bills are definitely something she cannot pay for. Learning more, I found out she doesn’t have any water or heat in her house. She also has an animal hoarding problem. This has caused many issues between her & I, resulting in me distancing myself from her.
After seeing her tonight, she asked for money to get the furnace, water, and floors fixed. I cannot reasonably just let her live in that type of situation, despite our rough past, but I also cannot afford to pay for it. I also considered her going into a facility, but she is in a lot of debt and does not have assets to use as collateral. I’m just feeling very lost.
Right now, I’m overwhelmed… with the medical debt she cannot pay for, finding out her house isn’t even livable, and the stress of not knowing if she will recover from this stroke. Just everything.
If you guys have experienced a situation with hoarding, stroke recovery, estranged parents who are living pay check to pay check, or just any advice- I’d love to hear it. Thanks for reading.
Submitted November 26, 2021 at 01:42AM by SnappyShrimp https://ift.tt/3HXdJSk
