Hi Reddit, I wanted to seek advice about my parents taking my paycheck. I’ve been working for a while now and ever since I started working my parents started taking my paycheck. They don’t let me spend a single penny out of my paycheck and they have me on a teen checking out. Once I turned 18, I told them I wanted to get off the teen account and get my own checking out. They got super mad and started saying how I wanted to hide my expenses. That’s when I realized they were super controlling. They told me I couldn’t get my own account and that I would have to stay on the teen account. Without them knowing I went and opened by own checking account. I work 12 hr shifts on the weekends and make about $1,500 a month (I get paid $19.50 an hour). Every time I address my parents about keeping a portion of my paycheck, they guilt trip me and get mad. They don’t allow me to even address that issue. My mom constantly says she doesn’t spend money on herself so I don’t deserve to keep the money I make. She also says how I just work 2 days a week and shouldn’t make money a big deal. My parents remind me of how much debt they are in and how I should support them. To me it’s just unfair to work just to not keep nothing from my paycheck. I’m going to start college in the fall and I also plan on attending Med school in the future. So I need to start saving money. I don’t know what to do. My parents are just super toxic and controlling. Also, also when I bring up the money issue, they say if I wanted to move out I wouldn’t be able to support myself and will become homeless. I’m trying to get a second job in the summer so I can pay for my college tuition myself without the help of my parents. I realized if they contributed a dime to my tuition, they would try to have more control of my personal finances. They tried insisting on helping me pay for it but I knew they weren’t doing it out of help but just to gain more control. Does anyone have advice for me on what to do in this situation?
A little more background information: My parents had me attend an expensive religious private school that they knew they couldn’t afford. Now they are in so much debt because of it. I’m supposed to graduate high school in a month but I don’t know if the school is going to hand me my diploma because my parents didn’t finish paying the tuition. Every time I bring up money they blame their financial issues on me. They constantly say how they supported me their whole life just to guilt trip as if it isn’t what a parent should do. It’s always the constant I put a roof over your head and provided you with food.
I did two years of college credit while in high school just so I can graduate college early. Thankfully I did get some scholarships but not a lot of financial aid due to my parents income. I did think about moving out because of how toxic and controlling my parents are but I don’t know where to start. My parents did kick out my older brother once but they guilt tripped him into coming back. As much as I care about my parents, they are just really bad for my mental health.
Submitted May 08, 2021 at 02:58AM by cloudrunner0043 https://ift.tt/3o1Nb9c
