My Mom has renal cancer is both kidneys. She is due for a partial nephrectomy in the left kidney and most likely a full kidney removal on the right kidney. The urologist is focusing on the left kidney now, she will have a 2 day stay in the hospital and a month recovery. I have the FMLA but at this point I have used up all my paid time off to take her to appointments. I have enough in savings to support myself for up to five months if I take out my IRA and my mutual fund.
The issue is the I want to work part time after a month is up. I cannot imagine my department being ok with me taking a month off, then going down to three days a week. My roommate is planning to cover the utility bills and rent in full which is super kind and making me respect him like crazy. I can spread everything out to one year if he does that.
The there is also the fact that once this left kidney recovery is over we have to turn around and do it all over again with the right kidney where recovery might be longer since they are taking the whole kidney (most likely), then there is the post care she will need. She also hasn't decided if she will recover in her hometown, with my grandmother (who is 90), or with me in my town (she doesn't like my city). I need to find a job that is part time because I don't want to destroy all of out finances. My Mom is on disability which works for her but in a month I will be living completely off savings.
Has anyone else had to take care of a parent? What did you do? Thank you and have a wonderful day!
Submitted April 20, 2019 at 12:50PM by SignificantSwimmer http://bit.ly/2DmphyU
